Why wait for Jan 1?

Yes its that time of year.  We are approaching Christmas and that is followed by New Years.  With New Years comes that word that begins withe R.  Yes you know the word.

Its ok to make a Resolution.  But 90% of the time those resolutions last a week, a month, maybe 3 months.  But we make an Excuse as to why we had to stop, why its not working etc.  So why not start NOW, today with a small step to making a change for the New Year and New YOU?!

I am committed to releasing the last 50lbs for my journey and I want to do it by my Birthday in June.  I have slacked off on the exercise, not eating as clean as I was, allowing more excuses to win.  But Come Jan 8th  IT IS ON!

If you are looking for a proven system that will help you with your health goals, customized for you with amazing tasting products to help with those cravings then we need to talk!  I will start my last leg of the journey and I love to have you on board with me.  I have already lost 51lbs and now its time for the rest to follow.

I use a 3 simple step system, I do meal prep to prevent excuses from winning (excuses aka drive thru) and I get up and move at least 3 days a week.  But when I first started I was using the 3 steps and moving 1 day a week and eating better but not cleaner.  Over time my desire for the crappy food was less and I craved fruits, veggies and cleaner options.  I am happy to discuss the process and program with you just message me at tanyaking2015@gmail.com and in the subject put NEW YOU 2018 so I don’t delete you.

I cannot wait but in the meantime I am making small changes so I am prepared fully come Jan 8th.  What small change will you make over the next 3 weeks?

For me it is no eating after 8pm.  Comment below with yours.

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The Battle of the Grief

 

I now know I was putting up a front to be strong, not taking a moment to cry as she was in a better place, right? No more pain and suffering, right?

During the following months I submerged myself in to many things to what I now know I was masking the pain.  I was involved with PTO at my daughters school, at my job we were going through some things and eventually it was an acquisition so trying to stay afloat and essential was very time consuming as well.  I also started a personal health journey which also turned into a side business.  I was getting “me” back so I thought.  My husband and I did many things to keep our daughter moving forward we would take weekend family trips to new places, we would allow her to explore new things and try new activities soccer becoming a favorite.  But when it finally reared its ugly head I knew GRIEF had taken a backseat and never went away or was properly addressed.  it was so bad that in the weeks/months after her death I would get a mailer or a phone call asking how I was doing.  “how the hell do you think I am doing”?  I would politely decline their services and hang up.  Finally after a year I asked them to stop calling me.  I started throwing away the items in the mail.  Really did I need a reminder every so often she was dead?  NO I live with it daily, thanks for asking.  But was I living with it or masking it?  That is the real question.

For the past 6 months or so I have been battling some “stuff” and I really wasn’t sure what but I blamed everything, work, finances, friends, my family etc.  But then one day it hit me out of the blue and like a ton of bricks.  You see subconsciously I was suppressing these feelings of grief  because I was supposed to be the strong one just like my mom.  One night I grabbed the blanket, Now this blanket has been on my headboard since I got it.  I placed it their knowing my mom was close as I slept.  I had it made from my moms clothes and I wrapped up in it (first time in 2 yrs) and I cried myself to sleep.   I knew then what the issue was and once I put a name to it things became clearer.  Everyone says take time to grieve, and I thought I had.  The issue was I did for my dad for 20 yrs.  But with my mom it was a short 4.5 months start to finish.  No time to wrap my head around it before it was upon us.  Some say it was a blessing that it went quick and I agree from the standpoint of pain and suffering but not from my own selfish place.  It wasn’t until recently I saw a FB post from someone surrounding me making plans and such for the holidays and I realized that I don’t have that anymore.  That I am not included in anyone’s plans but my own.  I love my husband and daughter with every breath inside of me but I miss the sense of family and it isn’t always for me as no one will replace my parents but its for our daughter to experience all her family especially at special times of the year like the holidays.  I want her to have amazing memories but its hard when everyone is spread out and such.  We do our very best to show her what family is and the love we give is priceless.  But she lost 2 grandparents in a short time of her young life and I want to make sure she has the sense of the other side of family as well.

To summarize the reason for this lengthy 2 part blog is for it to possibly help someone else going through the same situation. You may not know it today or next month but know that you are allowed to take time to cry, to be alone, to be mad, to rejoice in their going home.  But remember you are never alone, they are always there and you can talk to them whenever you need to.  Reach out to a friend that might also have went through this.  Sometimes people are “afraid” to talk to you but to be honest I love talking about my parents but people are afraid to sir up memories. I live in my memories of my parents and do my best to make amazing ones with my family.  If you know of someone that has lost a close family member do me a favor reach out and just check in on them.  Don’t lead with “how are you doing now that ________ is gone”  Just ask how they are doing? Engage in chat about something not related to their loved one.  As conversation goes on they will open up when they need to.   One last favor I ask of you….. if you still have your parents, grandparents reach out and hug them, visit them or call.  cause I would give anything for the phone in heaven to work.

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Mom?

Can you identify with this?  Dad’s can you identify with this?

What is the breaking point that you know when its time for a time out for you?  What does your timeout look like?

For me today is one of those days.  I woke up this morning wanting to just lay around, watch HGTV, DVR and nap.  But as I looked around the house I knew I can’t lay around and waste the day.  I had laundry to fold and wash more.  I needed to go to the grocery and do some meal prep.  I knew my time frame was limited as we had to get to a girl scout meeting today at pm.  So I chose to lay around until pm.  I went to fold the 2 loads of laundry that was sitting all week.  I put the sheets from all the beds into wash and left for girl scouts.

I had 1.5 hours to do some things for my home based while sitting at the library during her meeting.  I got 2 things accomplished from that list and I felt good.  I grabbed dinner (not fast food technically) and home I went.   I ran to the store to grab a few things to get us by until Monday/Tuesday when I can meal prep for the week.  Then I made brownies for my amazing husband per his request.  I also snuck in making breakfast mini omelettes for the week.  I come upstairs to see what is going on with laundry and it wasn’t where I thought it should be and I lost it. Yes my husband took the wrath in a short and sweet snarky comment I made. So then I start helping make the bed in my daughters bed and my back was hurting so I couldn’t do it and she wasn’t doing it as fast as I liked and I snipped at her.  At that point I removed myself from all and here I sit in time out.  I am blogging about it cause I feel like that is my therapy on how to NOT do this again.  Now it didn’t take me long to figure out what I did wrong and how to TRY not to do it again.

The result was I procrastinated all day, fell behind and then it became everyone’s fault.  I know it was my fault too but I was snipping at everyone around me.

Now I am about to cut up brownies for my family and give the peace offering.

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Mom Life……. the things we do for our kids

I just returned on Friday afternoon from 28 hrs with 77 5th graders in the woods.  In today’s society our kids are so electronics focused but I must say I was surprised how well they did.

We arrived at camp which is located in our own town but you would have no idea (I didn’t) it was there.  Kids had cabin assignments and we grabbed our gear and chose our bunks, yes bunk beds.  This momma however grabbed a bottom bunk and settled in.  We met at the Flag pole and started our stations.  These stations allowed the kids to learn new skills not only in nature but in real life.  For example we did an adaptations station.  They hid 15 things along a path in the woods and we had to find them.  Interesting thing is almost everyone missed the items that were behind them.  They focused on in front and to the side. When we turned around and walked back the same path we saw the additional items.  The kids enjoyed the exercise for sure.  We did other stations such as team building,  leading a friend that is blindfolded, and learning about what is important in survival as a group.  In the evening they did a 2 mile hike at dusk and then the campfire with s’mores.  To be honest the fire was great but it was so stinkin hot and the mosquitoes were having a field day on the legs and ankles I was ready to clean up and get to bed in the air conditioned cabin…… this was not glamping my any means but it beat sleeping in a tent.

The girls were having fun and enjoying the time talking and a couple even did make up.  Lights out at 10:15, no talking at 10:30.  Most were up and getting ready by 6:45 am.  We cleaned the cabin and took our stuff to the front.  Breakfast time with a cereal bar, and sausage, egg, cheese biscuit.  Then back to the hot morning which by the way was the first day of fall and it was 94 out.  After a morning of team building like working together to get across an area without falling off the blocks. the kids had truly ran out of gas.  The heat was taking its toll on all of us no matter how much water we drank, well water at that.  We gathered after a couple of exercises back at the front for a cleanest cabin award.  I am proud to say our cabin WON!!!!  The girls were so excited to have those bragging rights.

We loaded the buses up, I however drove myself and back to the school we went.  After the kids were accounted for at the school she was released to me and off to get food, shower and me to return to work for about 5 hours.

I would not trade the memories for anything in the world and so thankful I have a FT job that I can take the time off to do those things with her.  I would love nothing more than to grow my Network Marketing Business and the new business I will be launching in October to not worry about time off no matter what is needed for my family.  I will get there just you watch and see!

Embarking on a new business

We finally did it.  I am moving forward with my secondary business and growing another stream of income doing something I am passionate about.

I am starting a meal prep business launching in October is the target.  I have  seen so many of my friends struggle with the other services like Blue Apron and Hello Fresh and I decided there could be a open door for me here.  Yes I know the market is saturated with these types of services but I want to take a different approach if the client allows me too.

My service will have 3-4 options and they get to choose.  There is the option for us to prep together  in your home, me coming to your home and doing it alone,  I prepare menu, recipes, grocery list and you prep it on your own, or the custom service where we plan what you want.  The first 2 options will be a limit of 15 meals and a hourly minimum and a mix of breakfast, lunch and dinner.  As a secondary offering I will grocery shop for your session as well with a fee plus cost of groceries.  My mission is when I  leave they have the knowledge to be able to do this going forward, maybe they use the menu service or if all else fails I am in their house maybe every 10 days.  We will see.  The pricing was the hard part but when I look at other services out there I think I have priced it fairly and there will be some bonuses along the way.

What are your thoughts?  Would you allow someone in your home to prep your meals for the week?  Would you want to learn alongside them for future prepping alone?  what about having a girls afternoon and prep some basics like 2-3 meals then go home with 3-4 recipes?

Comment below and let me know your thoughts.  I am super excited to launch this locally in Indianapolis and US based for the menu basics.  Stay tuned so I can help you and your family eat healthier and stay out of the drive thru’s!Lunches

Whew, what a whirl wind few months….

Hey guys sorry for being gone so long but I had to take some steps back and re-evaluate life, my business and what we wanted as a family for our future.

So we have done the ground work and I am back and focused on bringing you content to add value to your life and those around you(so if you like what you read please share it).

Where have I been and what have we been up too.  Well lets start with

April – school was winding down, soccer season was in full swing and I went to my Network Marketing company annual event in Frisco, Tx.  Came back from there and was fired up has amazing ideas (still do) and then the FT job came into play.  We were going through a merger and it was in full swing.  Everyday was a meeting or 3-4 on top of my normal daily duties.  Thanks to my amazing team I was able to focus on our future as a team and they handled the day to day.

May – School ended, soccer ended and I was about to breath when someone called and asked me to be their +1 to Cancun.  YES PLEASE!  I was very grateful for the opportunity to be in Cancun with so many amazing, top earners in the industry and learning and absorbing from them all.  It also allowed me some alone time to reflect on where I want to me in my career, my NW business and as a wife/mom.  I am grateful for the person that asked me to come along and it was just what I needed.  Came back it was Memorial Weekend and BAM, 4 days later off to Vegas!!!!

June – Annual trip with my hubby for my birthday and no daughter.  It is our mid year recharge and we had a great trip this year.  Once i returned however the migration at work was in full effect and the stress levels were at an all time high.  Not to mention that many long time employees/friends were departing the company at an uncomfortable rate of speed, some on their own others not so much.  But I had to keep focused for my team and myself.

July -We took an impromptu trip to Virginia to visit my husbands side of the family and Morgan had her first plane ride.  That was a nice relaxing trip as they live at the beach so morning and night salt air is to be soaked in and the sounds are soothing.  The return from mini vacation was met with all hands on deck as migration was happening in 2 weeks ready or not.  I can tell you we had done this same exercise internally in March 2015 and it took 18 months to get it ready.  This time around it was more like 18 weeks….all kidding aside it might have been 22 weeks but you get the picture.  Oh and not to mention that go Live day is also THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL.  Lucky for us I bought supplies July 4th weekend and family took her back to school shopping while on vacation so we were ready!

August – We went live on the new system and it has been a challenging month for my team but most importantly my customers.  But we are remaining positive and keep a smile on our face and do our best to find the right answers or someone to assist them.  School started August 1st as well and its going well.  Soccer started a week later and she is showing some improvement so the camps this summer must have helped.  Lots of struggles with my lower back (that will be another blog) but after a month of no exercise and feeling fluffy I woke up today to take my “after pics” for a contest and I saw some changes and was 5lbs down for the month.

So here is sit on Labor Day and I am reflecting on the last few months with you and I realize its not been horrible but it was real life and we made it through.  Now time to get the ball rolling for many of our goals and see where we land in 3, 6 or 9 months from now.  Stay tuned its going to be a great ride and I want you on board with me.windy dog