Have lost your tribe?

Life was great!  Laughing, partying, girls giggling and such.  The days before marriages, jobs, babies, divorces etc.  So why is it that women believe they need to stop doing all this just because of the fore mentioned things?  I mean just because you got married, gave birth you still a woman.  You still need girl time.  There are some things you just can’t tell your husband or significant other.  Things only your “tribe” will understand because for the most part they have been there through it all.  The ups/downs, the job loss, the heartbreaks of a relationship, death and whatever else life has thrown at you.  Stop for one minute right now and think of the person that would drop it all for you and rush to your side as soon as you text or call no questions asked.  Not a family member, but to be real sometimes blood wouldn’t do that for you.  Now back to your “ride or die”  when is the last time you spent quality time with that person?  When is the last time you made them feel appreciated?  When is the last time you didn’t make an excuse to not hang out?  If it’s taking you a minute to think about this then maybe you should pick up the phone and resolve that time lapse.  Cause you never know when you will need them and if they are feeling less important in your life because of a new relationship, job or whatever else is in the way then they might not pick up the phone next time.

I recently rented Girl’s Trip and I confirmed what I already knew, my tribe is gone.  Over the last 10 yrs the tribe has drifted apart and some remained together but didn’t include others.  I can’t tell you the last time the tribe was together as a group for a fun girls night out….. hmm yes I can it was 5-6 yrs ago as FB TimeHop reminded me the other day.  It is not for lack of trying.  I tend to be the one that always made the plans, set the time and place and after a while that got old because it started to be a reason one way or another some couldn’t show up.

Again these blog’s are not a pity party but more a release of frustrations and thinking maybe you reading this can identify and I want you to know you are not alone.  Finding a tribe is really hard and at the age of 47 I don’t think I can invest my time to find a “new” tribe.  If you have a tribe hold tight and love them hard.   I would like to rekindle the old tribe and I am right here as I always am, waiting for the call or invite.  If it doesn’t happen that is ok cause I will take myself to the girl movies, I will take myself to dinner and have a drink cause I love me and I know I can count on me always!tribe.png

Mom?

Can you identify with this?  Dad’s can you identify with this?

What is the breaking point that you know when its time for a time out for you?  What does your timeout look like?

For me today is one of those days.  I woke up this morning wanting to just lay around, watch HGTV, DVR and nap.  But as I looked around the house I knew I can’t lay around and waste the day.  I had laundry to fold and wash more.  I needed to go to the grocery and do some meal prep.  I knew my time frame was limited as we had to get to a girl scout meeting today at pm.  So I chose to lay around until pm.  I went to fold the 2 loads of laundry that was sitting all week.  I put the sheets from all the beds into wash and left for girl scouts.

I had 1.5 hours to do some things for my home based while sitting at the library during her meeting.  I got 2 things accomplished from that list and I felt good.  I grabbed dinner (not fast food technically) and home I went.   I ran to the store to grab a few things to get us by until Monday/Tuesday when I can meal prep for the week.  Then I made brownies for my amazing husband per his request.  I also snuck in making breakfast mini omelettes for the week.  I come upstairs to see what is going on with laundry and it wasn’t where I thought it should be and I lost it. Yes my husband took the wrath in a short and sweet snarky comment I made. So then I start helping make the bed in my daughters bed and my back was hurting so I couldn’t do it and she wasn’t doing it as fast as I liked and I snipped at her.  At that point I removed myself from all and here I sit in time out.  I am blogging about it cause I feel like that is my therapy on how to NOT do this again.  Now it didn’t take me long to figure out what I did wrong and how to TRY not to do it again.

The result was I procrastinated all day, fell behind and then it became everyone’s fault.  I know it was my fault too but I was snipping at everyone around me.

Now I am about to cut up brownies for my family and give the peace offering.

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It will still be my “HAPPY PLACE”

I went to bed last night after a long weekend of working my 9-5 since it was quarter end and I was exhausted.  Our daughter text me from her room at 1:21am saying the dog was barking.  I listened I heard nothing and then she replied she stopped.  Great now I am wide awake as I have had a good 2-3 hours of sleep.  I get up use the bathroom and crawl back into bed and look at Face Book.  I scroll for about 2 mins and one of the groups I belong to is a Vegas board and someone had posted 2 mins prior active shooter at Mandalay Bay.  I was like “lord Jesus, lil punks”.  Then 5 mins later someone posts active shooter at Luxor.  It continued for about 15 mins as it went up strip with the casinos finally ending at Harrah’s.  I jumped on the Police scanner and started to listen and found out it was 1 shooter and they were about to storm his 32nd floor room.  There were no other casinos involved just MB and the concert venue below.

I watched news channels FB Live, the police scanner became jumbled so I stopped listening.  I finally laid back down at 3:30 said a silent prayer and went back to sleep.  I woke up at 5:30 and my husband didn’t know yet.  When he got back in bed I told him.  At that point more new channels were live and I started listening again.  I couldn’t wrap my head around it yet and all I wanted to know was it in fact terrorism on MY Happy Place?  How could it be?  Next to Disneyland/world this is the happiest place on earth for ADULTS.  Why would someone ruin that persona? I will not let this savage ruin my love of the city or my memories.

Now we are about 14 hours after the worst mass shooting in US history and I still don’t understand why.  I will wait to see what the investigators figure out from his home, his roommate when she returns to the country and so forth.

My prayers and love to the families, friends and fellow concert goers that are now living with this for the rest of their lives.  Loss of a loved one, the images of seeing people gunned down from an unknown source right in front of you.  I pray they all seek help and assistance the resources are there when YOU are ready.Vegsd.jpg

Mom Life……. the things we do for our kids

I just returned on Friday afternoon from 28 hrs with 77 5th graders in the woods.  In today’s society our kids are so electronics focused but I must say I was surprised how well they did.

We arrived at camp which is located in our own town but you would have no idea (I didn’t) it was there.  Kids had cabin assignments and we grabbed our gear and chose our bunks, yes bunk beds.  This momma however grabbed a bottom bunk and settled in.  We met at the Flag pole and started our stations.  These stations allowed the kids to learn new skills not only in nature but in real life.  For example we did an adaptations station.  They hid 15 things along a path in the woods and we had to find them.  Interesting thing is almost everyone missed the items that were behind them.  They focused on in front and to the side. When we turned around and walked back the same path we saw the additional items.  The kids enjoyed the exercise for sure.  We did other stations such as team building,  leading a friend that is blindfolded, and learning about what is important in survival as a group.  In the evening they did a 2 mile hike at dusk and then the campfire with s’mores.  To be honest the fire was great but it was so stinkin hot and the mosquitoes were having a field day on the legs and ankles I was ready to clean up and get to bed in the air conditioned cabin…… this was not glamping my any means but it beat sleeping in a tent.

The girls were having fun and enjoying the time talking and a couple even did make up.  Lights out at 10:15, no talking at 10:30.  Most were up and getting ready by 6:45 am.  We cleaned the cabin and took our stuff to the front.  Breakfast time with a cereal bar, and sausage, egg, cheese biscuit.  Then back to the hot morning which by the way was the first day of fall and it was 94 out.  After a morning of team building like working together to get across an area without falling off the blocks. the kids had truly ran out of gas.  The heat was taking its toll on all of us no matter how much water we drank, well water at that.  We gathered after a couple of exercises back at the front for a cleanest cabin award.  I am proud to say our cabin WON!!!!  The girls were so excited to have those bragging rights.

We loaded the buses up, I however drove myself and back to the school we went.  After the kids were accounted for at the school she was released to me and off to get food, shower and me to return to work for about 5 hours.

I would not trade the memories for anything in the world and so thankful I have a FT job that I can take the time off to do those things with her.  I would love nothing more than to grow my Network Marketing Business and the new business I will be launching in October to not worry about time off no matter what is needed for my family.  I will get there just you watch and see!

How to effectively Time Manage

I don’t know about you but that is my strength and always has been.  But I am curious, how do you time manage? Do you do it well? Are you horrible and wish you could be better?

For me personally I find the old fashion method of lists to be the best method.  For some they have to write it out (this is usually me), others have went millennial method and found an app for that (that is my husband) and then there are others that find the “wingin it” method to be best (that is our daughter).  This last method can also be called the “eh if I wait long enough someone will do it for me”.  So then I revert to my method and add it to the list for me to do.

I know when a long weekend is approaching or a staycation is coming up I tend to make the ABCDE list (pictured below).  This allows me to pick and choose how I manage my time once the A/B’s are done.  But I have to make sure my team is in place for the D list as well.  I find myself marking things to the E list because of time, resources, or pure “i want to chill” moments.  Adulting is hard sometimes and I yearn for the days to have no responsibilities but my school grades and the occasional pick up my room/ house.

This week has been an OMG moment for me and my time.  The work week was a short one thanks to the holiday.  Then it was crazy at work and so my 8 hour days flew by.  Then come home and prepare for a garage sale over the weekend.  I have had the stuff in bags for a couple months but setting it all on tables, pricing didn’t happen I just told them as they asked or were looking at stuff.  Then as the Friday arrived I was like geesh i need to pack for Vegas since we leave Wednesday, Pack our daughters clothes as she is staying with a friend while we are gone, and also pack for the 5th grade sleepover which is 3 days after we return from Vegas.  I have found in my last 3 trips that having the suitcases packed and ready to walk out the door at least 3-4 days prior helps the stress levels leading up to the trip.  So we had a quick dinner date Saturday night and came home and knocked out the Vegas packing.  I told my husband what he needed and he went to the closet and came back with his clothes for each day ready to be packed.  That was a huge help and I am so appreciative for his help.  I just have my briefcase and toiletries I use until we leave to throw in the bag last minute. Laundry was started and we will have her clothes ready by Monday night.  As for the 5th grade overnight that might be when I get back,  its only 1 night so not much needed.

This week my time is pretty limited as we have soccer Monday night, Tuesday we are all home and Wednesday we leave.  So my dinners are going to be quick no fuss meals and no leftovers.  Which reminds me we will be doing some blogs on meal preps and such as we launch the new business, so stay tuned for those.

So I ask you which one are you- list maker, app user, or Wait for someone else to do it for you?  Comment below and let me see what the most popular method out there is today.  If you have a new method please share that too.

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Whew, what a whirl wind few months….

Hey guys sorry for being gone so long but I had to take some steps back and re-evaluate life, my business and what we wanted as a family for our future.

So we have done the ground work and I am back and focused on bringing you content to add value to your life and those around you(so if you like what you read please share it).

Where have I been and what have we been up too.  Well lets start with

April – school was winding down, soccer season was in full swing and I went to my Network Marketing company annual event in Frisco, Tx.  Came back from there and was fired up has amazing ideas (still do) and then the FT job came into play.  We were going through a merger and it was in full swing.  Everyday was a meeting or 3-4 on top of my normal daily duties.  Thanks to my amazing team I was able to focus on our future as a team and they handled the day to day.

May – School ended, soccer ended and I was about to breath when someone called and asked me to be their +1 to Cancun.  YES PLEASE!  I was very grateful for the opportunity to be in Cancun with so many amazing, top earners in the industry and learning and absorbing from them all.  It also allowed me some alone time to reflect on where I want to me in my career, my NW business and as a wife/mom.  I am grateful for the person that asked me to come along and it was just what I needed.  Came back it was Memorial Weekend and BAM, 4 days later off to Vegas!!!!

June – Annual trip with my hubby for my birthday and no daughter.  It is our mid year recharge and we had a great trip this year.  Once i returned however the migration at work was in full effect and the stress levels were at an all time high.  Not to mention that many long time employees/friends were departing the company at an uncomfortable rate of speed, some on their own others not so much.  But I had to keep focused for my team and myself.

July -We took an impromptu trip to Virginia to visit my husbands side of the family and Morgan had her first plane ride.  That was a nice relaxing trip as they live at the beach so morning and night salt air is to be soaked in and the sounds are soothing.  The return from mini vacation was met with all hands on deck as migration was happening in 2 weeks ready or not.  I can tell you we had done this same exercise internally in March 2015 and it took 18 months to get it ready.  This time around it was more like 18 weeks….all kidding aside it might have been 22 weeks but you get the picture.  Oh and not to mention that go Live day is also THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL.  Lucky for us I bought supplies July 4th weekend and family took her back to school shopping while on vacation so we were ready!

August – We went live on the new system and it has been a challenging month for my team but most importantly my customers.  But we are remaining positive and keep a smile on our face and do our best to find the right answers or someone to assist them.  School started August 1st as well and its going well.  Soccer started a week later and she is showing some improvement so the camps this summer must have helped.  Lots of struggles with my lower back (that will be another blog) but after a month of no exercise and feeling fluffy I woke up today to take my “after pics” for a contest and I saw some changes and was 5lbs down for the month.

So here is sit on Labor Day and I am reflecting on the last few months with you and I realize its not been horrible but it was real life and we made it through.  Now time to get the ball rolling for many of our goals and see where we land in 3, 6 or 9 months from now.  Stay tuned its going to be a great ride and I want you on board with me.windy dog

Money saving tips with Food

Hey guys!  Long time no chat.  Life has been a bit crazy and hectic with spring break, now soccer is starting.  So I needed to get this out to you to help with crazy life styles like ours.  Hope you find something useful and share the blog with someone else on social media!

I make a meal replacement shake everyday, typically in the morning but sometimes lunch or dinner.  In that shake I add 4-6 medium size frozen strawberries.  Well if you look in the freezer section a bag of frozen berries is like $5.  What I do is when they are running strawberries on special like 2/$4 or 3/$5 I grab as many as I can and take them home rinse, cut the stems and sometimes cut in half and place in a gallon freezer bag.  This saves so much money and you control that there is no preservatives in that frozen bag.  I do the same thing with blueberries as our puppy loves these as a treat.

Do you have bananas on your counter going bad?  Peel them and cut in half throw them in the freezer too.  Now you didn’t throw away the banana to go buy new and you still can use in your shakes!

Now for the GREENS!!!  I typically from time to time will buy spinach and kale to throw in to the shakes but not all the time.  Since greens go bad fairly quickly and I love a cold not watered down shake (no ice added for me) here is something that will save the Greens.  Take the greens and put in your blender with a little bit of water.  Blend up as you would a shake consistency.  Now pour the mixture into a muffin pan filling it up half way.  Freeze and when solid pop out the hockey puck of greens from the muffin tray and into a freezer bag.  Now you have frozen greens when you want them for your shakes!

Another tip I do almost weekly is with meats.  You know if you go early in the morning they are marking meats down.  Grab the ground beef, turkey, chicken whatever you like and take it home, brown it up you can even season it for specific things like spaghetti, Sloppy joes, Mexican dishes etc.  Label your freezer bag with the name of what the meat will be used for – Tacos or Spaghetti.  Then divide up and let it cool with the bag open.  Once cooled completely then close it up with no air and lay flat for best storage in your freezer. Chicken cut in cubes is also great and quick to cook up in a hurry.  Finding whole chickens on sale is a bonus too cause I boil it up and shred it and place in baggies for quesadilla’s or for the puppy, yes she is spolied!  Now when you get home after work, or sports and forgot to pull something out you can pop this in the microwave to defrost while kids are doing homework or showers and dinner on the table in under 30 mins.

Green, red, or yellow peppers along with onion they run these on special all the time in the grocery.  Buy them up and cut into slices like for stir fry dishes then place in baggies per dish.  So you grab one bag throw it with some meat and make some rice and BAM dinner is served  You can also add meat and a marinade to this bag and its all in one bag when you are ready to cook.

hope these tips helped you and as I come up with more I will share.  But I would love for you to share with me one of your money/time saving tips with food below!

Have a great day!